We close shut our eyes and pretend the impact of past experiences are closed chapters, yet residual pain hibernates. Triggers are often little whispers of our suffering. The long-term impact of trauma on our physical being, in most cases, we silence. In an effort to find my way through the suffering I exposed life’s clutter… Continue reading Trauma and Loss
Talking about loneliness is just as taboo as talking about sex; especially on Valentines Day. To destigmatize loneliness, I will share my intimate dance with this feeling. After decluttering my home I took a magnifying glass to other areas of my life that needed decluttering (people, work, time and mental and physical health) . Deep… Continue reading Intentional Love & Loneliness
Don't Be Careless With Other's Hearts “Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.” - M. J. Ashton As the media spreads red hearts and roses across our screens and… Continue reading Don’t Be Careless
As you may have noticed, I am once again single in the city! Most people either really love dating or completely dread it; I am somewhat in the middle. Truth be told, I am good at dating. Unfortunately, I can tell you how to get a man, but I damn sure can’t give you advice on how to keep him! One of my biggest challenges with being single is the negative commentary about being a single Black woman in her 40's. The second hardest part about being single is filtering out all the negativity about dating Black men. Wait…. Let me be clear, the negativity is not all coming from white people. This is Black on Black crime! Let’s call it what it is! Are you an offender?
After hearing Kameron Corvet’s live performance of “Led Me to You,” I bought the CD and played the song on repeat for a month straight. No NPR on the drive to and from work — only Kameron singing sweet melodies in my ear. The song gave me a little bit of hope during my five months break from men and dating. The lyrics were a reminder that every failed relationship serves a purpose, and just maybe each… Continue reading Part II – Celebrating Black Men