The death of Chadwick Boseman was a shocker. Unlike most people I didn't post a photo or voice my pain. I went inward, like I do with most tragedies. If you haven't noticed, I am always a week, two or three late in my responses. Don't take my silence to mean I am not grieving or… Continue reading Be Your Biggest Advocate
We close shut our eyes and pretend the impact of past experiences are closed chapters, yet residual pain hibernates. Triggers are often little whispers of our suffering. The long-term impact of trauma on our physical being, in most cases, we silence. In an effort to find my way through the suffering I exposed life’s clutter… Continue reading Trauma and Loss
TO BE SKINNY AND BLACK In the Black community when someone says you are skinny it's not a compliment. It's more of a put-down and it's perfectly acceptable to tell someone they need to gain weight. But wait, don't you dare say to someone they need to shed a few pounds. If you don't meet… Continue reading You Skinny!
I’m All Over the Place, so being still ain't a strength of mine! Stillness has been forced up on me since last August. It was as if God said to me “child sit your butt down somewhere and listen; be still.” I did as I was told and listened and impatiently embraced stillness. It was… Continue reading Be Still……
Sometimes it’s ok if the only thing you did today was breathe. - Halle Berry Yes, it’s June and I am just now doing my May Mental Health Awareness Month post. I'm only a few days late; truth being I tried to write this post in May, but I was working on my own mental… Continue reading M.H. Awareness Month
Is winter over yet?! When my birthday arrives that means winter is officially over and it's time for sunshine and fun time! My birthday, March 20th, is on the first day of spring/the spring equinox. This day has always had special meaning to me, which is why for the past 7 years on my… Continue reading My Birthday – Spring Equinox
Don't Be Careless With Other's Hearts “Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.” - M. J. Ashton As the media spreads red hearts and roses across our screens and… Continue reading Don’t Be Careless
As you may have noticed, I am once again single in the city! Most people either really love dating or completely dread it; I am somewhat in the middle. Truth be told, I am good at dating. Unfortunately, I can tell you how to get a man, but I damn sure can’t give you advice on how to keep him! One of my biggest challenges with being single is the negative commentary about being a single Black woman in her 40's. The second hardest part about being single is filtering out all the negativity about dating Black men. Wait…. Let me be clear, the negativity is not all coming from white people. This is Black on Black crime! Let’s call it what it is! Are you an offender?
In my last post I wrote about the Danish practice of hygge. So that people aren't left wondering "what is Kenya talking about now," I decided to go into more detail for y'all! Three years ago I made a career change and it feels like for two of those years my personal life became secondary… Continue reading Hygge: Kenya Style
Part I: Celebrating Black Men - Gratitude & Compassion Thank You To My Homies It’s amazing how God puts the right people in your life at the right time. This summer I experienced a painful break-up that knocked the breath out of me. You know, the kind of heartbreak that makes it hard to breathe some days?! The most… Continue reading Part I – Celebrating Black Men