TO BE SKINNY AND BLACK In the Black community when someone says you are skinny it's not a compliment. It's more of a put-down and it's perfectly acceptable to tell someone they need to gain weight. But wait, don't you dare say to someone they need to shed a few pounds. If you don't meet… Continue reading You Skinny!
I’m All Over the Place, so being still ain't a strength of mine! Stillness has been forced up on me since last August. It was as if God said to me “child sit your butt down somewhere and listen; be still.” I did as I was told and listened and impatiently embraced stillness. It was… Continue reading Be Still……
Don't Be Careless With Other's Hearts “Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.” - M. J. Ashton As the media spreads red hearts and roses across our screens and… Continue reading Don’t Be Careless
As you may have noticed, I am once again single in the city! Most people either really love dating or completely dread it; I am somewhat in the middle. Truth be told, I am good at dating. Unfortunately, I can tell you how to get a man, but I damn sure can’t give you advice on how to keep him! One of my biggest challenges with being single is the negative commentary about being a single Black woman in her 40's. The second hardest part about being single is filtering out all the negativity about dating Black men. Wait…. Let me be clear, the negativity is not all coming from white people. This is Black on Black crime! Let’s call it what it is! Are you an offender?
After hearing Kameron Corvet’s live performance of “Led Me to You,” I bought the CD and played the song on repeat for a month straight. No NPR on the drive to and from work — only Kameron singing sweet melodies in my ear. The song gave me a little bit of hope during my five months break from men and dating. The lyrics were a reminder that every failed relationship serves a purpose, and just maybe each… Continue reading Part II – Celebrating Black Men
The yoga mat, on the floor It’s more than that, it’s a metaphor A way of life – Stic For the past three months I have surrounded myself with good vibes and good tribes; making every effort to avoid toxic people, music and food. To ensure my day is off to a productive start and… Continue reading Yoga Mat, It’s a Metaphor
Visit Apartment Therapy to read about my bedroom makeover! Nine years ago I purchased my condo and loved everything about it, except the carpet in the bedroom. I despise carpet. Hence, a few years ago I had the carpet replaced with laminate flooring. That small change made such a big difference to the overall look… Continue reading My Bedroom Makeover